Sunday, December 29, 2013
Although Eve Tushnet's "Coming out Christian: How faithful homosexuals are transforming our churches" (The American Conservative Jan./Feb. 2014, subscription required) was not written with the Feast of the Holy Family in mind (at least to my knowledge), it is a fitting reflection on this feast.
She writes that "Gay Christians are finding 'chosen families' in many different ways," including living in "intentional communities" and embracing the "nearly forgotten Christian traditions in which friendship is treated as a form of kinship that carried obligations of care."
She also argues that the presence of celibate gay Christians in Christian communities those communities embrace the Cross: "The sentimental, Disney view of marriage was always wrong. Marriage changes our loneliness but rarely cures it. ... But for a long time American Christianity has sought to fix loneliness and suffering rather than accepting them as part of the core of Christian experience. ... Because marriage, the standard solution to the problem of loneliness is typically unavialable to gay Christians, we've had to confront loneliness earlier and more publicly than many of our peers."
She ends with: Jesus - unmarried, marginalized, misunderstood, a son and a friend but not a father or spouse - is the preeminent model for gay Chrisitans. In this, as in so many things, we ar just like every body else."